Last week I got a call from an old career coaching client. Her company had presented her with a yet-to-be flushed out dream opportunity, but she was so hyper-focused on finalizing the job description, she was missing the bigger picture: a diamond ring had just landed in her lap! After I helped her take in the 30,000 foot view, walk in her boss’s shoes for a moment and see what this leap could mean to her career trajectory long-term, she moved from frustrated to exhilarated. Her tendency to obsess over the details almost cost her an incredible, life-changing opportunity!
Having worked in the field of coaching, leadership development and human potential since 1996, I’ve noticed that people with a high degree of self- awareness tend to roll with the punches, know how to leverage their strengths, are more comfortable taking risks and often, they’re even able to cultivate self-compassion for their shortcomings.
My global coaching/consulting firm is in the midst of some staff transitions and I’m watching myself flail like a fish out of water without a full support team in place. I’m an ENTJ if you know Myers Briggs speak–a strategist and a visionary; I value efficiency, hate wasting time and am keen on using my energy and talents in the most effective way possible. This transition is requiring me to practice “good is good enough,” problem-solve, tame technical issues, do less, ask for help and trust/surrender and let go.
Easy? No! But I’m keeping my sense of humor and remembering how off-balance I get when I don’t have the support I need. It’s actually kind of comical: picture a music conductor trying to guide their orchestra with only the horns section in place! And yes, it’s requiring me to revisit old mental train stops I haven’t been to in years.
What makes you tick? Our sister company Career Strategists uses a few career/personality assessments with clients (we really like the StrengthsFinder 2.0, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and the DISC Assessment, but there are many more; check with your university alumni career services office for help or reach out to our senior coach Angela for a complimentary consult). Regarding individual therapy (read 5 tips for finding a therapist), I really like Somatic Experiencing, Imago, and even assessments like the Enneagram and 5 Love Languages, can be helpful tools. You can find a list of our favorite career exploration books on our Inspiration Cafe, as well.
I challenge you to do some belly button gazing; learning more about how you’re wired takes inquisitiveness and courage. Here are a few questions to get you started:
- What do you need to be successful at work? In family life?
- What is your best time of day (and your worst)–when are you most productive?
- What self-limiting habits keep you from living fully and owning your power (read more)?
- Describe the “lens” through which you see life? Are you’re an optimist or a pessimist by nature?
- What are three words your close friends would use to describe you?
One of my favorite quotes is from author Wayne Dyer is, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” Perspective is everything!
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Sept. 21-23 A New Way of Being: Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health in the beautiful Berkshire Mountains, Lenox, MA.
Oct. 26-28 A New Way of Being: Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat at 1440 Multiversity in the Santa Cruz Mountains, Scotts Valley, CA.
Jan. 25-27, 2019 ~ A New Way of Being: Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health in the Berkshire Mountains, Lenox, MA.
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